With her permission, this is what she sent me:
Today, I'm writing to you.....the reader. Today, a series of events has lead to the need for me to put this into words for you...the reader. Today, I am deciding not to take responsibility anymore for you...the reader. And this does not mean I do not care about you...the reader. But today is the time for you...the reader...to take YOU into your own hands.
You...the reader...have cancer.
You...the reader...are depressed.
You...the reader...are overweight.

You...the reader...doesn't get enough sleep.
You...the reader...get migraines.
You...the reader...don't get your nervous system checked.
You...the reader...(fill in your own blank).
When a person is in a preventative sickness/proactive health career field, like Kris and I, you start to care about people an awful lot more, particularly your family members. And this is largely the result of the wealth of knowledge and education about sickness and health that is required to do our jobs. As learning ensues, it is hard to take a step back into your shoes...the reader...and think about sickness and health the same way. For us...the professional...it is much easier to change our behaviors because we now know what may happen to our health (and our children's health) if we don't.
But you...the reader...don't think about these things until it has already happen to you. You...the reader...react when something happens to you instead of preventing that thing from ever occurring. Now imagine how difficult our job must be to try and get you...the reader...to understand that your current behaviors and choices are leading you to a path of sickness and dis-ease. So we begin to care an awful lot about you. Because we know what COULD happen to you. And so we begin to carry your problems with us when we fail to relay that message to you.
But I cannot carry your weight anymore.
I cannot carry your problems anymore.
I cannot care more than you care anymore.
I cannot fix you...the reader.
YOU...the reader...are the only one that can fix YOU.
So, this post is about me. I am giving myself permission to let your problems no longer be my problems. Because I have my problems to deal with. I have a family to take care of. I have my health to take care of. Because if I don't take care of myself, I cannot take care of my family, and I surely cannot help you...the reader...realize that only you are the one that can fix YOU.
Because I love YOU...the reader. And so...should...you.
Lovingly,
Kael
I mean... WOW. Anyone one of us out there in the fitness industry, healthcare, anyone with family, can relate to this. How hard one can take something when you care more about the person you are helping than they care about themselves. Its heart breaking to watch someone over and over make mistakes, never hearing your voice of reason or acknowledging your open arms. It takes its toll, mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally. These are powerful thoughts from a wise woman. Thank you for your post, Kael!
Stay Strong,
Kris
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